Nagging doesn't motivate. Who knew?
Eminent psychologist, @davidsyeager , explains that what really motivates a young person is status and respect.
When we say things that feel like an attack on their status or seem to disrespect them, their frontal lobes go offline; they can't even think properly.
Instead, their response is emotional, and the result is likely to be frustrating for everyone.
If, instead, we treat our teens with respect and engage them in discussions about why things are important and what the long term impact of them is, we are far more likely to grow our connection with them and get a positive result.
How to motivate young people is among my most downloaded episodes of all time, so whilst I'm on a break from recording new episodes I thought it would be great to combine two of my vintage episodes, to really focus on the topic.
The start of this latest episode has the discussion between @amindfullife_susie and me about how we deal with trying to motivate our kids. The second part is an excerpt from my interview with Dr David Yeager about what the science actually tells us.
If you'd like to listen to the episode you find in my playlist, on any podcast player searching for Parenting Teenagers Untangled, or my website www.teenagersuntangled.com