Unconditional love is vital to our child's wellbeing, not just now, but for the rest of their life.
If we shut them down, or withold love for choices they make that don't align with our own beliefs or ambitions, what we tell them is that our love is conditional.
Every single expert I have interviewed - including @parentingadultchildrentoday has stressed the unconditional nature of parental love to be THE MOST IMPORTANT thing we have to offer our kids.
It was the main reason why @ammabrowngirl - who I interviewed before - had to go no contact for a while, but finally found healing when she was fully accepted by her wonderful parents.
It doesn't mean we don't set boundaries, or that simply accept everthing they do or say without challenge.
It means we say, I will alway love you AND
- I don't like being spoken to in that way
- I'm saying no because I love you enough to do what's in your best interests rather than cave in
- I would love to know more about why you think that way so that I can understand you better.
For the full interview follow the link in the bio, find Teenagers Untangled on YouTube, or www.teenagersuntangled.com