Surely our kids deserve as much, if not more status and respect in their own homes as they might receive elsewhere?
You could also argue that it's better to offer it at home so they don't go looking for it in places you don't want them to go.
When I played this interview with @byjoannaschroeder to my teen this was the quote she loved the most. Her book, Talk to Your Boys, is an excellent guide to having good conversations with your teen.
It also makes me think of Dr David Yeager's brilliant book, 10-25, I have an excellent interview with him too. Click here to watch that: https://studio.youtube.com/video/dkvfYZdvdoU/edit
He makes it clear that motivating our teens starts with offering them the status and respect they so desperately crave.
If we want to avoid our kids scuttling off to their bedroom, and trying their best to get away from us, we can start with having conversations that show our respect for their inner life and the need to organise their time in a way that's meaningful to them.
It doesn't mean letting them do whatever they want, it means asking them for a good time to have a conversation and letting them know that it will be constructive, rather than some sort of rant.
What do you think? I know I've got this wrong at times, so I love this excellent reminder and all of the amazing tips she gave me in her interview which is out now.