We all do it. I've said it before and I'll say it again. It's not doing what we hope; in fact it could be having exactly the oppositve effect. MRI scans have shown that when a teen hears their parent nagging the emotional part of their brain lights up and…
In my next episode on Teenagers Untangled I discuss the way society has changed with @dr_eliza_filby, historian and generational expert. In it we cover: ⭐️The rising importance of the Bank of Mum and Dad. ⭐️Why our education system is not offering what it used to. ⭐️Why the old ways of…
It's one thing to get advice on how to parent, it's another to have independent studies that give real evidence on how well one approach works rather than another. So when Matilda Gosling who’s a social scientist specialising in social psychology and issues affecting children and young people told me…
Figuring out their identity is THE job of a teenager. ‘During adolescence, your sense of who you are–your moral and political beliefs, your music and fashion tastes, what social group you associate with–undergoes profound change. During adolescence, we are inventing ourselves.’ Sarah-Jayne Blakemore - The Secret Life of the Teenage…
Are you overwhelmed with the job of parenting? Sam Kelly says the answer is to teach your kids to ‘Notice and Do’. Sam Kelly is an inspiring feminist teaching parents how to share the mental load with the whole family. When I discovered her I knew I needed to share…
Your high performing kid might be the unhappiest: Achiever mode: When kids show up, do the work, and get consistently high grades, their self-worth can become tied to high performance. Their disengagement is invisible, fueling a fear of failure and putting them at risk for mental health challenges. Perfectionism can…
The Disengaged Teen authors @drrebeccawinthrop @jennyandersonwrites trawled studies of twenty five thousand parents and eight thousand teachers to find out what parents were doing best and what they did that was least helpful.❣️There's one stand-out answer:Listen to your teen.In my interview with David Yeager, expert on what motivates 10-25 year…
Steven Kariaskos PhD, lost a partner to suicide and is an activist for suicide prevention/awareness & bereavement. In this clip from our interview he explains how complex and difficult it is, even for experts.
So many of us want a community or a village in which to raise our kids. We bemoan the loss of spaces where our kids can roam safely, and the help that seemed to come with having a 'village'. But are we really being honest about what that entails, and…
The pressure to conform to beauty standards has a damaging impact on girls, according the Jo-Ann Finkelstein PhD In her book, Sexism and Sensibility, Finkelstein highlights the need for girls to understand their worth beyond appearance, because of the damaging effect it has on their ability to grow and develop…
What is the point of my audio hug, Parenting Teenagers Untangled, and why would you listen to the podcast? In a completely unprompted moment at the end of our interview, Mike Nicholson from @progmasculinity did a beautiful job of summing up what it feels like to be a parent who's…
Andrew Hampton FRSA thinks year seven at school is the best stage to begin having discussions that prevent rape culture setting in, and tackling the unhelpf ideas that boys can form around masculinity. In the full interview he also talks about the ways in which we can provide better role…
How to parent kids who struggle with ADHD, anxiety and life Nobody wants their child to struggle, but it's inevitable at some point. Many of the problems our kids face will be part of a well-worn path through the teenage years. But some kids have more complex needs. Parenting them…
Www.teenagersungangled.com It's so hard to feel good about ourselves when we're bombarded with messages that imply we fall short of some ideal. Self-love and acceptance isn't a vapid concept, it's something radical we can offer our kids to help them navigate the world with more joy. Besides, the way we…
00:00 The impact of grades on students 04:44 Strategic learning and feedback v's grades 09:01 Teacher bias and the role of feedback 11:52 Alternative grading models and their benefits 18:45 Parental role in supporting students 22:44 The impact of pressure on learning 25:38 The role of curiosity and intrinsic motivation…
Teenagers can be very stressed about the changes their bodies undergo. When we parents feel stressed too it simply compounds the negative messages. In our latest episode my daughter and I talked about how it feels to put on weight, and battle with body image as a tween/teen. We talked…
What is school for, and are exam grades a good measure of a human? Does someone's grades tell us what we should know, or are we being misled? Do grades help children grow and engage with learning, or do they simply destroy interest and entrench social divisions? These are the…
In the past few weeks two books have made the argument that our obsession with grades is failing everyone. The first is Exam Nation by Sammy Wright, headteacher of a secondary school in the North of England and part of the UK government’s Social Mobility Commission for several years. Exam…
Giving boys a masculinity vaccination: In my latest interview, Brendan Kwiatkowski PhD, talked about preparing boys ahead of time so they're aware of what to expect; a sort of vaccination against the worst of the 'man box' pressures. For the full interview, find Parenting Teenagers Untangled on your podcast player,…
Punishment isn’t very effective for changing teen behaviour; building a relationship in which they know you love them, and are trying to help them help themselves, is far more powerful. As parents we do need clear and consistent boundaries, backed by consequences that make sense. Trying to punish our teens…
Extreme misogyny, and the resulting violence against women and girls, has recently been described in the UK as a national emergency. According to the National Police Chiefs Council, online influencers like Andrew Tate are radicalising boys in and a way that is 'quite terrifying'. Deputy Chief Constable Maggie Blyth said…
